are you a dog? no ? goodbye

'I have been homesick for you since we met.'

The Avett Brothers (via rampias)

Feeling this extensively, thank goodness the wait is almost over. 

(via lillies-and-lace)



i’ve never met a sex positive person that was like “it’s okay if you’re uncomfortable with certain sex acts or sex in general.” it was always the same old tired “just try it out, just do it, just make your partner happy, it’ll make you happy, you’ll…

'Here’s the thing. Men in our culture have been socialized to believe that their opinions on women’s appearance matter a lot. Not all men buy into this, of course, but many do. Some seem incapable of entertaining the notion that not everything women do with their appearance is for men to look at. This is why men’s response to women discussing stifling beauty norms is so often something like “But I actually like small boobs!” and “But I actually like my women on the heavier side, if you know what I mean!” They don’t realize that their individual opinion on women’s appearance doesn’t matter in this context, and that while it might be reassuring for some women to know that there are indeed men who find them fuckable, that’s not the point of the discussion.

Women, too, have been socialized to believe that the ultimate arbiters of their appearance are men, that anything they do with their appearance is or should be “for men.” That’s why women’s magazines trip over themselves to offer up advice on “what he wants to see you wearing” and “what men think of these current fashion trends” and “wow him with these new hairstyles.” While women can and do judge each other’s appearance harshly, many of us grew up being told by mothers, sisters, and female strangers that we’ll never “get a man” or “keep a man” unless we do X or lose some fat from Y, unless we moisturize//trim/shave/pushup/hide/show/”flatter”/paint/dye/exfoliate/pierce/surgically alter this or that.

That’s also why when a woman wears revealing clothes, it’s okay, in our society, to assume that she’s “looking for attention” or that she’s a slut and wants to sleep with a bunch of guys. Because why else would a woman wear revealing clothes if not for the benefit of men and to communicate her sexual availability to them, right? It can’t possibly have anything to do with the fact that it’s hot out or it’s more comfortable or she likes how she looks in it or everything else is in the laundry or she wants to get a tan or maybe she likes women and wants attention from them, not from men?

The result of all this is that many men, even kind and well-meaning men, believe, however subconsciously, that women’s bodies are for them. They are for them to look at, for them to pass judgment on, for them to bless with a compliment if they deign to do so. They are not for women to enjoy, take pride in, love, accept, explore, show off, or hide as they please. They are for men and their pleasure.
Yo, I don't mean to disrespect your views or change your mind. Just pointing out that hating the opposite gender is what brought along sexism in the first place.
- tarsussfour


If you aren’t trying to change my mind then why are you even talking to me about this?  Stop lying about your motives both to yourself and to me.

My hatred is reactionary, my anger is reactionary, my grief for my female sisters is reactionary.  I am reacting  to thousands of years of abuse and subjugation.  

My hatred and my anger will not stop until men stop raping, murdering, and abusing us.  My hatred will stop when there is no longer a widespread need for crisis centers for women because our boyfriends, fathers, husbands, and even strangers feel like our body is their property to rape or knock around.  My anger will stop when little girls aren’t being groomed for motherhood and  for dating men before we are old enough to tie our own shoes.  My hatred will stop when teenage girls no longer have to fend off the gaze and touch of middle aged men.  My anger will stop when women are no longer forced to sell their bodies for food, their sense of selves for a place to sleep.  My hatred will stop when men stop trying to force their way into our spaces, when men recognize that they have been enforcing and maintaining a system that knocks women to their knees so that they can feel tall.

My hatred, my anger, it is reactionary.  Male hatred, that is unfounded.

Spend your time telling them to not “fight fire with fire” or telling them that “hate breeds hate”.  

I am fighting fire with the only thing available to me, go tell men to stop fucking lighting the fires, then we can talk.


when you hear your parents talking shit from another room




So if we have to show women what the baby looks like in their womb and tell them how the process works before allowing them to get an abortion, does that mean we should teach our soldiers about the culture of the lands we’re invading, and explain to them that the people we want them to kill have families and feel pain, just like Americans?



I wish someone would randomly tell me little facts about myself. Not ones that I have already told them but ones they have picked up by themselves because they care enough to notice the little things I do.